Are you looking to elevate your sex life? If so, you and your partner might be interested in bondage sex positions. In fact, 1/3 of interviewed couples incorporate BDSM into their sexcapades (Psychology Today), looking for ways to spice up their intimacy.
If this sounds like something you and your partner and mutually interested in pursuing, then you need to know about safe bondage techniques to ensure maximum pleasure – and comfort. When properly executed, bondage can make you and your partner feel closer together, but it requires patience, trust, and mutual respect.
You also need to learn about the best bondage techniques so you can choose which you prefer. Here’s what you need to know about BDSM and some of the best positions to try.
Research BDSM
Before incorporating bondage into the bedroom, always do your research. There are different types of BDSM that couples might not be aware of. For example, not all bondage sex evolves around rope play, but sexually active adults might not realize this.
Bondage often includes:
- Skin-safe tape
- Leather
- Ties
- Handcuffs
- Restraints that connect under the bed
- Silk sashes
- Blindfolds
These are just a few of the different types of BDSM sex play you and your partner can participate in. It’s also important to watch videos and read the information on credible websites so you know how to safely incorporate bondage into your sex life.
Bondage can also be a great way to increase kinky foreplay with your partner.
Safe Bondage Techniques
Once you decide to incorporate bondage, it’s crucial that you speak to your partner(s) about what you’d like to do. You can’t expect they’ll be on board with your ideas right away, so be prepared to have an open and honest discussion.
At this point, you’ll want to discuss:
- Boundaries
- Interests
- Games and roleplaying
After you decide on what your interests are, look for different types of bondage that fit those interests. You may need to experiment until you find your bondage groove.
Keep in mind that your partner might now want to explore the different types of bondage. They may be disinterested in the entire concept – and that’s okay. Not everyone feels the same about sex.
This is a great time to let them know you understand and respect their decision, asking what about it turns them off and if there is anything else they might like to explore with you. You should also establish a safe word for both partners, ensuring everyone feels safe and respected.
Do not, at all, pressure them into doing anything they’re uncomfortable with. “No” must always be respected.
If your partner is interested, it’s time to explore different bondage sex positions!
Conquistador
This is one of the best bondage positions. It’s great for beginners and lets you easily work bondage into your preferred sexual position. It’s important to be comfortable in this position, so if missionary is what works best, then stick with this position when starting out.
Have the receiving partner lie down with their legs and head spread and tied to the bed frame. You can use rope, silk scarves, or velcro cuffs, since they can easily be removed, should your partner decide they no longer want to participate.
The Rider
Another great beginner bondage position is The Rider. This position is great for partners who want to control how deeply they penetrate. It’s also a position for those who enjoy being on top.
The partner performing the penetration would lie on their back with their wrists and ankles bound to the bed frame. Again, silk scarves, ties, and even underwear work as great, soft restraints. The partner on top can then be forward or backward-facing, depending on preference.
Leap Frog
If you’re familiar with doggy style and enjoy this position, then consider Leap Frog for your next beginner bondage bedroom excursion. The receiving partner would lie on their stomach with their wrists tied together over their head.
To spice things up, that partner can also be blindfolded, depending on their comfort level. Their shoulders should be down and their knees need to be firmly in place.
Again, use some type of soft fabric or velcro cuffs that can easily be broken, should your partner become uncomfortable.
The Lap Dance
If you and your partner both enjoy lap dances, then this is a wonderful type of intimate bondage play to try out.
The partner doing the penetrating would be the one seated in a chair. Their ankles are then bound together loosely. Their wrists are tied behind the back of the chair, and they can be blindfolded if they want.
Using lube for both partners, the receiving partner would slide onto the penetrating partner. Shoulders can be used for leverage.
Big Spoon, Little Spoon
Another great beginner bondage position is Spooning. You can easily spice up your sex life by incorporating this position with your partner.
This position is also great for anyone who likes the closeness and intimacy of spooning.
This sex position starts with the penetrating partner securing the receiving partner’s wrists. They’ll need to tie their wrists in front of them – not too tight! – using their favorite type of soft tie.
Next, roll the receiving partner onto their side and enter them from behind. This is also another opportunity to add a blindfold. You can also add other sex toys, such as nipple clamps, but only if both partners fully consent and are willing.
The Best Bondage Sex Positions
Once you and your partner mutually consent to try something new in the bedroom, don’t be afraid to try these bondage sex positions. Keep in mind that comfort is key, and you need to speak openly with your partner to ensure both parties always consent to bondage practices.
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